Sania Mirza, an Indian tennis player, recently called off her public engagement with her childhood friend, Sohrab Mirza, on the grounds that she was not compatible with her fiancé’. She might have thought that a broken engagement is much better than a broken marriage. I wonder why marriages fail in spite of so much love between the partners.
Why do couples part their ways soon after their marriage?
By marriage, we are getting into a life long commitment and in reality marriage takes a lot of work to make it successful. The concept of marriage is to be together and happy. Selfless effort from both parties, good communication and trust between the partners is needed to make the system of marriage to work.
Lack of compatibility is one of the reasons for a failed relationship. People learn, grow and change over the years and so is the relationship. In most cases, the couple don’t give enough time to make the marriage to work. In the fast paced life, most couples treat marriage like its disposable and don’t take their vows seriously. Most of young couples have a feeling that they can get someone better than the present.
Experts say that most couples file for divorce within six months of their wedding and the number of cases where couples have been married more than ten years is very few. In most of the cases, immediately after the marriage, couples realize that they are not made for each other.
In most of the families in India, the children are never allowed to make their own decisions and then suddenly you are supposed to choose your life partner. In such a situation, most of them do not the have the courage to tell their family about what they want themselves out of a wedding. Often family pressurize them to get married especially after an engagement has been announced. For this attempt, support of the family is the most needed factor than anything else.
I have even gone through the same situation of calling off my engagement. I had a affair for quite sometime and due to certain reasons our relationship couldn’t end up in marriage as i expected. After three years of breakup, he got on with his life and married and settled in his life. My parents also insisted me on getting married and at last my engagement also fixed but my heart kept on telling me he is not my man and this is not going to work out successfully. After lot of discussion, fixed the date of engagement. A week before the engagement, i mustered all my courage and spoke to my brother about my true feelings, thinking that he will stand by my side. He didn’t let me down and he could convince my parents somehow. Then also they were telling, everything will be alright after the wedding takes place. But I didn’t have such feeling and they were forced to call off the engagement.
For the prospective brides and grooms, before you get in to a lifelong relationship, at least listen to your heart. Your heart will tell you what you want out of a marriage. A decayed marriage is worse than anything in this and it reaches to a stage of no return.
